Are Unaccompanied Orders in Your Future?

By Carla Olivo, PCSgrades Strategic Communications Director

I always said I would never willingly be separated from my husband. Luckily for us, most circumstances allowed us to make a choice to be together. The closest we came to even considering being separated, aside from mandatory deployments, was when he was assigned at the last minute to a seat at the Army War College. We had been expecting another year at his current duty station, so the assignment caught us by surprise. It was not a convenient time to move for me professionally, and it was a horrible time for us to leave the home we had purchased two years prior. The housing market was at its lowest in almost two decades, and our house was under water.

But in the end, we decided it was more important to keep our family together, so we rolled the landlord dice and later ended up on the losing end (that is a article for another day!). Carlisle ended up being one of our favorite tours! We loved everything about those short ten months from the newly built house we found to rent, to the kids’ school, to the mil spouses that have become lifelong friends. In looking back, it was the perfect decision for us, especially since my husband ended up deploying for 13 months a year later.

No Choice

But not everyone is as fortunate in being able to avoid the dreaded unaccompanied tour. A service member doesn’t always have the option to bring the family along because of where the assignment is located. Korea and Turkey are two locations where unaccompanied orders are frequent. A year ago, more than 600 family members of U.S. military and civilian personnel were forced to leave Incirlik Air Base and several smaller bases in Turkey because of worsening security conditions there. Just last fall the Pentagon changed the status of permanent duty assignments there to one-year, unaccompanied tours.

To Stay or Go?

Whether unaccompanied by choice or not, there are decisions to be made. Where should the family live and will a move be paid for? The answer is, it depends. There are also any number of reasons why a family will choose to stay behind. Spouse employment, a special needs family member, real estate obligations, elderly parents, a high school senior are just a few. I’ve known many families personally that have decided not to follow their service member so that their high school age student could graduate from a particular school.

I had another friend who stayed behind in Florida when her husband was sent to Japan for a year. She had little kids, and it wasn’t a good time for her professionally to move. At the end of that year, he was offered a three-year follow-on assignment there, and the family joined him.


When the decision is made not to PCS with the service member, or when unaccompanied orders leave you no choice, there are several options to be considered. The simplest might be to stay at your current duty station. If selling the house is a concern or you have older children who do not want to change schools, this might be what is best for your family at the time.

Another option is to move back “home.” Some choose to be surrounded by friends and family in a familiar environment. With a spouse halfway around the world, the comforts of home might be exactly what you need.

Others might choose to move ahead to the next duty station if you know where you are headed. This option allows you and the kids to get settled while your service member is away. The one downside is that the powers that be may change your spouse’s orders and you end up moving unnecessarily. This happened to a friend of mine. She left Duty Station A and moved to Duty Station B while her husband deployed. Not only did she spend the year away from him, but she was starting over in a new area. At the end of the year, his orders were changed, and the entire family ended up back at Duty Station A!

As for how Basic Allowance for Housing or BAH is calculated, it can get tricky. If a family is not allowed to accompany their service member because of the location of the tour, the BAH the family receives is based on their location which could be their current duty station, the follow-on duty station or their hometown if they choose to go home.

If a move home is not authorized for an assignment, the BAH would be based on the duty station where the service member is stationed, no matter where the family lives.

No Right or Wrong

Do your homework and ask questions to find out what your situation warrants.

Deciding whether to go or stay is not easy, and there is no “right” or “wrong” answer. Your family’s particular circumstances will dictate the final decision. You may want to be surrounded by family and friends while your spouse is away. You may choose to stay put if your spouse’s follow on tour is where you are currently stationed. Or you may want to move ahead to the next duty station to give the kids a chance to settle in, giving them one more year to call a place home.

Whatever you decide, utilize all the tools and information available on to help you choose where you would like to plant your family.

Author: Carla Olivo, PCSgrades Strategic Communications Director, previously served as the Director of Communications for Operation Hug-A-Hero and as the Media/Community Relations Officer for the Delaware Department of Transportation. She has garnered numerous TV industry awards including the Associated Press award for Spot News Reporting, News and Documentary Reporting. She lives in Northern Virginia with her husband, a retired USMC Lt. Colonel, their two children. You can follow her on Twitter @olivowriter.

4 thoughts on “Are Unaccompanied Orders in Your Future?

  • Hello Ma’am,
    I recently joined the Army and I’m wondering with everything that I have been reading after I graduate AIT, let us assume that I get stationed at Fort Bliss Texas. Do I have to request accompanied orders for my wife and kids to be able to move there or do they normally add them automatically since they are my dependents. I have seen stuff regarding accompanied vs unaccompanied and I am trying to figure out, will the army give you unaccompanied orders just for the heck of it if you get stationed at a normal base such as bliss, and your dependents wouldn’t be allowed to move live with you? Trying to clear this up it seems either I am not asking the question right when I ask people or I don’t understand what their answer is.

    • Generally, if you are stationed stateside you will receive PCS orders for you and your entire family. Your Chain of Command will notify you of what type of orders you have. Please check with your S-1 office for clarification of your orders.

  • My husband is pcsing to Korea unaccompanied in Jan for a year. We live in Fort Hood housing. His next duty station when he gets back is Fort Stewart which would only be for 5 months because he is not re-enlisting. He gets out in July 2019. Would we be able to continue living in Fort Hood housing for the year he is in Korea being that he is not returning to Fort Hood? I’m am not moving to Ft Stewart because we planning on residing in Texas after he gets out.

  • Doing a 1yr unaccompanied tour. Will the Army pay for me to move my family back to North Carolina and what state will the bah rate be my old duty station or where my family is moving to while I’m in Korea ?

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