This article was provided by our friends at Spouselink, a free website for Military Spouses that was created to support, inform and inspire users with a variety of content–anything from pop culture to important Military information.
The thing about summer is, as soon as the calendar reaches August it feels like the season’s already over… not just because there are only a handful of weeks (or days!) before school starts again but because you may have just spent the first half of your summer months organizing and making a move to a new home in a new town filled with new faces and places you’ve never seen before.
It’s a common enough scenario for military families who make a PCS move at this time of year — and one that can make kids think all the magical hours of sunny summer days have been wasted; days they could have spent hanging out with friends or going on a fun vacation were spent packing and unpacking. So how can you ensure the season ends on a positive note? The trick, of course, is to get the kids excited about all the new things waiting for them outside their new front door. How do you do that? One sure way to help your kids start fitting in with their new surroundings and salvage the remaining days of summer before school starts: Get into adventure mode!
Here are 7 sure-fire ways to dream it up, map it up, and live it up during the last days of summer:
Take a family drive in every direction… and make it fun. When you’re new to an area, the first thing you need to figure out is where the nearest grocery stores, gas stations, shopping centers, parks, baseball fields, dance studios, movie theaters, restaurants… and schools are — especially if you don’t live on base/post. Whether or not you have a map or GPS to help you get around, if you keep your bearings (and your wits) about you, you can simply start at home and drive within a certain radius (mileage) or time-distance (15 minutes) of your neighborhood. That way, you won’t go so far that you get lost, but you will go far enough to get the lay of the land around you. You’ll get a feeling for the pace of traffic, the types of people that live in the community, and more. You can even play games by having the kids call out, “I see a gas station” or “I see a pizza place” as you go along because, of course, when you’re driving, you can’t always take in the full view yourself. Be sure to make pit stops here and there along the way so the kids don’t get too antsy sitting in the car the whole time. Bonus points if you find a FroYo shop where you can pick up a treat!
Sign the kids up for local day camps. Check into the local recreation centers or school programs to find out if there are any summer camps going on during the final weeks leading up to the first day of school. Some offer sports, dance, cheer and art camps, and more… including water time, if your local rec center has a pool. It’s a great way to keep the kids busy during the day while you are unpacking and setting up your new home. They will get to meet kids from the area, work off their pent-up energy, explore their creative side, and reclaim the summer days they may feel they’ve missed out on until now. Sure, it might be a bit of a splurge to get them involved in a camp, but if it gets them out of bed in the morning with a smile on their face and keeps you from having to come up with new activities to keep them busy for the remaining weeks before school, it can be a relief.
Pick a day and a place for a quick trip… and go. Are the mountains nearby? The ocean? An amusement park? An aquarium? National monuments? Art museums? A cute historic town? A horse-riding trail? Find out what’s unique about the area you’ve moved to and take a day to relax and enjoy yourselves there — anywhere within a few minutes or hours of your new home. If you can stay overnight so it feels like a mini vacation, all the better. If you can only stay out for a few hours, make the most of that time “away” by turning off cell phones and opening your ears and eyes to what’s around you, including each other. Buy “souvenirs” at a dime store, try new foods at unfamiliar restaurants, snap photos along a nature walk, and talk with each other about the fun things you do so that you create a new memory that wipes away the awkwardness of a long car ride heading away from your old home, straight to your new one.
Play outside. Sure enough, when the “new” kids move into a neighborhood, the “old” kids are watching from their windows to see what everyone looks like. So getting the kids outside to play can help encourage a neighborly visit that can resolve all the curiosity. And when the old and new kids start talking to each other, they can help each other figure out what’s going on, on their own kid-like terms, talking about what’s cool, what fashions are in style, what local accents sound like, games the kids like to play, the type of music everyone listens to, what the school teachers are like, etc. The more (and sooner) your kids can learn about the other kids before school starts, the more comfortable they will be hanging around with them… and they will probably skip right past that awkward sitting-alone-at-the-lunch-table thing.
Eat outside. Is the weather fabulous where you are? Enjoy it! Plan a picnic for lunch and a cookout for dinner, or — if you have a back yard — create a full-fledged impromptu campout. You can even set up an outdoor movie theater by hanging a white sheet up between the trees or by hooking up a TV to a long extension cord. Cable TV provider not set up yet? No worries. Just head to the nearest library, used book store or thrift store to rummage around their DVDs. You’re sure to find something everyone will enjoy… at least for one evening. Of course, you will want to be ultra-careful about the noise level you create in your back yard. You don’t want to come across as the “obnoxious new people” in the neighborhood. But by being outside, your neighbors will notice that you are friendly, active, happy people… and they may even come over for a get-to-know-me chat.
Save the memories. Did you or your kids document the move by taking lots of photos of old friends, houses, and excursions at your former duty location? Have they taken just as many photos of the travel route and new house and community? Don’t let it all fade away. While memories are still clear about what-happened-where in your old home, be sure to capture everyone’s images and thoughts in an online scrapbook or a more tangible one made of paper, stickers and other crafty materials from a nearby hobby store. It’s an activity that can help keep little hands busy while you’re getting settled in your new home… and it will also give them something to share with friends old and new if anyone asks them, “What was your house like?” or similar other questions with answers that may be hard to describe.
Relax. Just relax. You’ve just packed up your life in one place and then unpacked it in another. That’s quite a feat— one you’ve probably done before and will do again… a few more times soon enough. So just take some time for yourself, your kids, your family. Spend quiet, happy time together. Think of ways to decorate… but don’t decorate yet. Think about all the things you want to see and do in your new town… but don’t do them yet. Think about getting school supplies and clothes and the excitement of moving on to the next grade level at school… but don’t go out to buy your supplies or clothes yet. There is plenty of time for all of that… including after the school year actually begins. The idea of relaxing with each other is exactly that: Sharing time with each other in a restful mode. That alone can make the hours of summer longer. You are able to sit back and breathe in every moment without feeling the “hurry” of having to move on to the next thing on your to-do list.
One last thing… make sure your kids have access to their old friends (i.e., peer-level support system) either through social media, apps that let them communicate from afar, or email… but don’t pressure them to stay in touch or get out there and make new friends. It will all come in due time. Summer is for fun. You can keep the smiles on your kids’ faces by just letting them be kids.
Author Bio: Cathleen Karlsson is the daughter of a retired Navy Captain. Growing up, she lived with her family in five Midwestern and East Coast states before earning her B.A. in fiction at the University of Pittsburgh. She is an experienced, award-winning marketing writer who has worked in several advertising and online media roles, including her current role as the SpouseLink.org Editor. In her “spare time,” Cathleen volunteers with a homeless animal shelter and serves as the vice president of the board for a ballet company. She also enjoys dancing, sewing and crafting, and spending time with her young daughter.